When Boy and I discussed wedding details, this was our genius plan:
Drive over to the court house and pay $2 for parking. Get a PA marriage license for $75. Pay whatever officiant fees associated. The end!
That didn't go over so well with the in-laws.
We fought the idea of spending our future-home savings on a party. Paying for a venue, tables and linens, food, booze, decor and a photographer is not a small expense. We were well-aware of the business of weddings and we didn't want to contribute to it. We also knew that 100% of the guests would be from out of town (and out of country), and we didn't want them to feel pressured to spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars to attend just a party.
After being forcefully persuaded by the in-laws into having a wedding, we set a date, set the guest limit to only immediate relatives, and set rules on what we were willing to contribute financially (invitations, photographer, decor, reception). Then, I was off to make the
wedding invitations.
Once the RSVPs started coming in and my mom and future mother in law started receiving phone calls from our relatives planning their cross-country and cross-world travels to attend our wedding, we had a big realization. Our wedding wasn't just about going through a ritualistic ceremony and throwing a big expensive party...
Our wedding was about uniting two groups of people with two different cultures into one close family.
We then embraced the wedding and all it would offer to the two of us and our families. It was the only reason these two groups of people would ever travel to the same destination at the same time to celebrate one event. The response to attend was overwhelming and we were really starting to realize how special our wedding was going to be.
I bet you're wondering what our budget was and how we spent it? Well, here's the breakdown...
Budget
$3,000 (Not including guests' gifts, which we
totally splurged. :) I won't divulge.)
Printing + Envelopes: $75
Stamps: $22 (RSVPs online, no return postage)
My Outfits
Mehndi outfit + jewelry: gifted by MIL
Reception dress + jewelry: gifted by MIL
Boy's Outfits
Ceremony outfit: gifted by his grandmother
Reception outfit: $210
pinstripe pants from Banana Republic [2 sizes too big, but I altered them to fit him] - $20 on clearance from $98,
button-down shirt from Express - $40 on sale from $60,
tie he already had from ALDO)
Mehndi
My manicure/pedicure: self-done
Decor: Used lanterns and fabric purchased for ceremony and reception
Mehndi artist: gifted by in-laws
Catered appetizers: gifted by in-laws
Dinner: lovingly cooked by in-law family (it was yummy Indian food!)
Ceremony
My hair, make-up: self-done
Venue + Officiant: gifted by in-laws
Mandap: used my canopy from craft shows
Fabric: $120 + some borrowed from
Aparna's wedding
Flowers for garlands: $120
Breakfast catering: gifted by in-laws
Lunch at Indian restaurant following ceremony: gifted by in-laws
Photography
$800 (promotional offer from $1,400 for 4 hours ceremony coverage + digital negatives)
Our photographer told us that in 4 hours, he took more pictures than he normally does for 8 hour weddings because there's so much to photograph in an Indian wedding. Yay! Photos to come in about 2-3 weeks!
Reception
Venue: In-law's home :)
Paper lanterns: $70
String lights + flameless candles: $50
Cocktail tables/linen rental: $180
Fancy disposable plates/utensils: $80
Appetizers/Dinner: $1200 (from
Jimmy Wan's)
Desserts: $200 (Godiva Chocolate Cheesecake, Tiramisu Cheesecake,
Burnt Almond Torte)
Alcohol: $200
Servers (for serving appetizers, alcohol and clean-up): gifted by in-laws
Music: $0, mixed CDs made by Boy (lots of Bollywood music, lots of Bollywood dancing)
Total spending
$3,327
Fine, we went over budget, but we had fun doing so. :) We had a ton of help from family to cook food, make the garlands, decorate all the venues and help clean-up. We are extremely grateful for all the help we received!
Now that it's all over, we're pretty lonely without the commotion of 50 of our closes friends and family in one house. We're yearning for the next family reunion!
{All photos courtesy of our friend Harry Chou. Thank you!}
See Mehndi/Sangeet photos
See Ceremony/Reception photos
Professional photos coming soon!